Sunday, June 13, 2010



Love and relationships are presented to us as this glamorous necessity at a young age.  If not first through a healthy relationship between our parents, then subtly through Disney movies with the beautiful princess and handsome prince that live happily ever after.  As a result, we grow up expecting the presence of such relationships in our lives with no clear instructions on how to attain them.  The truth is, there are no real instructions.  A lot of dating and relationships is just trial and error.  You encounter different people to help you discover your likes and dislikes, what works for you and what doesn’t.
I was talking with a friend the other day that was really down on themselves about not being able to find someone to settle down with.  They were tired of being lonely, getting rejected and disappointed and feeling undesired by the opposite sex.  After listening to my friend, I further realized the importance of loving yourself first to building a healthy relationship with someone else.
Nobody knows YOU better than YOU and your relationship with yourself should take priority over your relationship with anyone else.  If you don’t think and feel that you are absolutely amazing, then why should anyone else?  You don’t really give them a reason to.  You should know and feel more than anyone else what a wonderful person you are.  If you don’t feel like the wonderful and amazing person that you are, then you need to work on that first and foremost before pursuing a relationship.  Learning how to be alone and love yourself is necessary because you have to be able to be happy and love yourself when it’s just you.  Otherwise, you depend on the other person for that validation and unfortunately, sometimes people take advantage of that.  If you feel good about yourself, then it doesn’t matter who mistreats or rejects you.  At the end of the day, you always know that they are the ones missing out and not you.  It is so important to (wait for and) find someone that recognizes how great you are and values and appreciates your presence in their lives.  When you are dealing with people, especially outside of your family (but even sometimes in your family), you never know how long they are going to be in your life.  A lot of people are meant to be in your life for only a season.  You have to be careful about whom you invest your time, energy and emotions in, however you can NEVER go wrong with investing in yourself.  

Thursday, May 6, 2010

If You Master Yourself, You Can Master Anything

The truth of life is that we all get curve balls. Things you think are going to work out sometimes fail, and things you have no idea are going to happen, do! Life is always an adventure and some days, it’s as if God is seriously laughing at your plans. When you have these surprises, keep in mind you do have some personal power! Remind yourself that you can empower your life and yourself. Realize that by choosing your response to any circumstance, you powerfully affect your future. 

Stop being a victim! 

Victimhood is for losers! 

Our society tries to program us to be victims and its bullshit. When you reject this victim thinking and take responsibility for your own life, you alter the circumstance and its outcome. 

The true test of your character is when the events around you are not supportive. Again, give up the victimhood. Sometimes we have to gracefully accept that there are things we cannot change and learn to live with them, even when we don't like it. In making this powerful choice, we do not allow the problems or current challenges to control us. The alcoholic’s anonymous program sums it up well with the Prayer of Serenity: “Lord, give me the courage to change the things which can and ought to be changed, the serenity to accept the things which can't be changed, and the wisdom to know the difference. 

The next time you meet with adversitytemporary defeat, or failure, remember that you may have no control over the pain in the ass changes or unpleasant circumstances, but you DO have control over your reaction to these circumstances. Exercise this privilege by searching for the seed of opportunity, which is carried in every experience of adversity and sorrow. 

We must choose to be proactive in life, and not let life happen to us. We must be driven by our values and goals, not by outside circumstances. You do not have to be a victim of circumstance; you make your own environment because you are the creator of your life by using your thoughts and actions. Your greatness comes from within, so start today to capitalize on your own talents and potential. The emphasis in our life should be on developing the vision; to see beyond the current situation, develop mental control over our emotions, feel our own power, and assume responsibility for our future. 
I would like to leave you with an Ancient Proverb that sums up true power: “If You Master Yourself, You Can Master Anything.” 

If I leave you with anything in my life, I would like to leave you with the knowledge that you don’t have to be a victim anymore. Speak up and put yourself in the driver’s seat of your own life! 

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

You all ready for the phones of the future,, Nice concept huh.More future concept phones can be found at

Monday, May 3, 2010

Letting Go


Have you ever wondered why you always end up getting hurt?  Have you ever wondered what you have done to deserve the constant lack of respect for you and your feelings?  Have you ever wondered why your kind and caring approach to people isn’t always reciprocated?
I have discovered the answer…in most cases, it is because people only treat you the way that you allow them to.  We have a lot more control than we choose to realize over the kinds of feelings that would cause one to pose the questions listed above.  We are not as helpless and powerless as we think we are.  As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
The problem is we hold onto who that person was or who we want them to be.  We make excuses for their behavior.  It takes two people to have a friendship or be in a relationship and one person cannot carry that weight.  It’s simply impossible.  In doing so, it is inevitable that we experience the hurt, disrespect and lack of reciprocity.  Is it really worth it?  Life is too short to try to change someone that you know doesn’t want to change.  What you can change is them being in your life.  Of course, this is much easier said than done.  Letting go is one of the hardest things we face in life.  However, time is one of the most unforgiving things.  Once it’s gone, you can never get it back.  So ask yourself, are you investing your time in the actual person or who they used to be or who they have the potential to be?
Always remember, you are wonderful and amazing!  Anyone should be happy to share a friendship or relationship with you and if they choose not to, then that is their loss.  You deserve nothing less than the best.

Sunday, May 2, 2010

 Very disturbing that i came across this on Facebook. To have nothing better to do with their time would be an understatement. This is a very biased Fan Page and it really speaks about us as a whole considering how many people are supporting and keeping the page going. However this just further justifies this country's "Need for Change" and giving him further purpose to be the leader of our country right now.So that he can work towards minimizing things like this. Its not even a Racist slur but just pure negativity. This descends back into a basic thing called Karma. You get what you put out, you put out negative, you'll receive in return negative and vice versa .& I personally disapprove of anybody wishing death upon another individual even in a joking manner, which this is not. Especially in these days when the Reaper seems to be lurking around every corner striking when least expected, lets live our lives and enjoy it to the fullest and wish the same for others.Your loved ones and people you don't know are leaving us every moment, lets not help this cause my putting negative suggestive influences as such out into the Universe. To some degree words do have power and influence. As a closing statement I'll just say "LETS RISE ABOVE THIS"


As said in a previous post, hurt and disappointment inflicted by others is an inevitable experience that we all must face at some point in our lives.  We have no control over the actions of others or the negative feelings their actions can sometimes evoke.  We can either perpetuate the feelings of hurt and disappointment or accept what has happened and begin moving on.
When someone has done us wrong, it’s common for us to take on the role of the victim.  The key is not to exploit this role for attention, sympathy and confirmation, which is very easy to do (and you may not even realize that you are doing it).  After getting hurt, you really just want to know that at least someone out there cares and that someone is on your side, right?  There are plenty of people that care and that are on your side, but this isn’t really the ideal way to go about soliciting their support. (i.e. Telling anyone who will listen about what so & so did to you)
When you ignore someone, talk badly about them, are rude to them, don’t forgive them, etc…you are clearly indicating that you have not yet gotten past the pain that they caused you.  In addition to prolonging the drama, you are either consciously or subconsciously trying to spread your pain to them.  These are not good, healthy ways to deal with your emotions and get closure.  Often times, this causes you to carry baggage into your future relationships. (i.e. Having trust issues because someone cheated on you)
As far as closure goes, I hear too often of people seeking closure from the person that hurt them.  It’s natural to want to know what someone was thinking, why they hurt you, if they ever cared about you.  99% of the time, you are not going to get the answers to those questions because nobody likes to admit when they are wrong or dwell on poor decisions.  Often times, there really isn’t a valid explanation to be offered if they have even thought about it.  I think that actively seeking closure is most times unrealistic.  It can’t be forced.  Additionally, the person that hurt you could potentially identify that your closure is dependent on them and take advantage of that.  (i.e. Everytime you try to walk away, they do or say something to pull you back into the same emotional rollercoaster)
Forgiveness is something that you do on your own time and of your own will.  It should not be dependent on anyone but you.  Once, in a conversation about someone hurting me, my dad gave me some really good advice.  He told me that you just have to take people for what they are.  Regardless of what they did to you, now you know what they are capable of and not to put yourself in that position again and/or to be more cautious.  He told me to make the conscious decision to LET IT GO and no longer let anyone or anything (that most times aren’t even worth your time and energy) steal your joy.
If the person that hurt you has apologized and still wants to pursue a friendship or relationship with you, then this is at your discretion.  If you choose to continue to deal with this person, you should be a little cautious but also make sure you have truly forgiven them.  You can’t hold the past against them when you insinuate that you have forgiven them and are trying to move on.  This is taking a step backwards.  If you find that you can’t move on with that person serving as a constant reminder of the hurt and disappointment that you experienced, then perhaps it’s a sign that they are no more forward steps in the relationship.  At which point, it would be best to continue pursuing the forward steps to forgiveness and moving on independently.
I think that forgiveness is a huge part of the maturation process.  Forgiveness in itself is a process whose length and difficulty vary by situation.  Sometimes, we feel as though certain things could just never ever be forgiven.  I urge you to remember that you are not perfect and have also inflicted hurt and disappointment to someone else at some point in your life.  Hopefully, all encounters with forgiveness (forgiving others, others forgiving us and us forgiving ourselves) are lessons learned about how we allow others to treat us, how we treat others and how we treat ourselves.

An Introduction

This blog will be about topic that come to mind,, a more abstract page,,, i think ima make another page too tho,, purely tech related since I'm so into whats latest ohone is coming out devices etc.